Many men and women in an attempt to create that sense of mystery, unfamiliarity, and the thrill of the chase end up becoming too elusive (playing impossible to get) that the other person assumes they’re not interested or the other person after a while gets tired, gives up and moves on.

Playful resistance --a.k.a. Playing Hard-To-Get --at least the way I teach it --

You can’t do that by being too available (clingy, needy or eager to please) nor by simply making yourself unavailable (saying "no" all the time or making yourself too scarce) or even by being overly aggressive ( being manipulative, demanding or controlling). These so-called "playing hard to get tactics" and actions make creating a relationship impossible. I mean really impossible. It can be such a headache trying to figure out what the other person thinks or feels and if it's worth investing any more time in trying to get to know them if they're hiding their feelings and sending mixed messages.

Most "normal" people have very little tolerance for bullshit and silly little childish mind control games. Ignoring, avoiding, acting unconcerned, indifferent, aloof and sometimes downright cruel won't make a man or woman come running to you and they certainly will never inspire him or her to fall madly in love with you. 
 

You create that sense of mystery, unfamiliarity, and the thrill of the chase by demonstrating VALUE that makes the other person feel fortunate to have attracted someone very extraordinary and exceptional.
 

Creating that sense of “exclusiveness" requires:

1) A wise and intelligent awareness about what you are doing

Look at it this way—you’re the owner of a luxurious brand who wants to confer an image of superior quality to a buyer. You are not going to achieve this by using “open house," (I’m desperate, I will take anyone) or “permanently out of stock" (don’t take calls, cancel dates, try to make him or her jealous etc) methods. You confer an image of superior quality by a good understanding of yourself first and foremost.

Self-awareness is the key. I cannot stress this enough. Self-awareness especially awareness of your sexual imprint (why you are attracted to certain people and not others, why you behave the way you behave, why you fear what you fear, why you believe what you believe and do what you do etc) will enable you direct your energy in positive ways, make the right decisions and maintain balance and moderation.

2) Knowledge of what appeals to a particular man or woman

Each and everyone of us has a uniquely personalized set of things that naturally attract or repel us sexually and erotically. How do you figure out what attracts or repels a particular man or woman? One, by asking questions... lots of them. Ask questions with the intention of finding out what makes him or her tick - his or her own sexual imprint. And two, by doing things that make him or her feel that you truly and genuinely understand him or her as a unique individual.

When you tap into the deepest and sometimes most forbidden desires, fantasies, and passions of a person, it is possible to spend just five minutes with him or her and create such strong attraction that he or she later on, on their own, recalls the experience with good feelings about seeing and being with you again. It's this "good feelings" that fuel the chase.

3) Ability to make someone feel special without seeming too needy or eager to please

If somebody is going to chase you, they want to know with some degree of certainty that you are worth the chase. There’s nothing that is a bigger turnoff for both men and women than someone who is predictable, not much of a challenge, too rigid or controlling, desperate or too eager to please, incurably negative and downright boring. The person must feel that you’re worth his or her time and energy and what he or she is chasing is not something he or she can easily get on the street corner but rather something offered to only a “privileged" few. Men and women want to feel that you're valuable and only those who deserve it will earn you as a reward. It’s kind of like a “members only" exclusive club where the person being allowed in feels “they must be special". When you make someone feel special, they in return will feel you are also special.

4) Capacity to impact on someone's life so much that they are positively transformed as a result of knowing you

Really savvy and skilled brand creators take “exclusivity" one step further. They just don’t stop at “by invitation only" phase, but instead create an entire lifestyle. That is, they challenge a man or woman pursing them to become more of themselves and do more than they’d dared to do before. If your words, actions, and behaviours can actually make the person experience a very strong state of arousal, excitement or deep sense of peace creating strong memories those memories will be added to the person’s sexual imprint and so will you - forever.

Playing hard to get done the right way can be the most powerful form of seduction there is. And we all have the ability to craft transcendent experiences that can make our dates, lovers, and spouses feel they are flirting (literally!) with the unpredictable and the unknown in a most intense, agreeable, pleasing, charming, endearing, enticing, enlivening, and reality altering way.

Who wouldn’t want to spend eternity with someone like that?
 

The very powerful message you send using the love-getting strategies outlined in my e-Book is that you are very much interested and success is possible, but some effort must be expended to achieve that success...

I have women chasing me for once... I used to always chase women, and it backfired almost every time. After reading Playing Hard-To-Get The Love Way e-Book, I realized that when I chased I was too intense and desperate. Plus I chased women who didn't want to be caught. They just liked the speed of the chase -- speed chase junkies - -oops had to be said! But now I have women chasing me for once. It's not intimidating - it's a turn on to see a woman who knows what she wants and is prepared to go for it. But one of these days, I have to "surrender to love" and allow myself to be caught. I've never been in love and can't wait to find out who that lucky woman will be. Matthew, Huntington Beach California United States

I am talking here about real life, down to earth, nuts and bolts, proven, easily actionable strategies that make you intriguing, challenging and exciting...

When you are not intriguing and challenging the message you send is that you are not a "worthy catch" -- someone worthy of time, effort and emotions.

This is one major reason many relationships today don’t last long. Often times, things quickly fall into the familiar humdrum of routine and taking the other for granted because there is just no feeling like one has had the opportunity to be challenged, intrigued and fascinated.

You may realize all too late that you have allowed the other person to move into a "comfort zone", you're are putting up with a lot of crap and you're not happy, and by then, maybe it's too late.

Now he is the most romantic guy ever... When my boyfriend and I started dating he was the one always doing the chasing then when he got me he backed off. It was like a yo-yo until I bought Playing Hard-To-Get The Love Way e-Book and started to play hard to get . Now he is the most romantic guy ever. When we are both being affectionate its WILD! GOD I LOVE HIM. IT KEEPS THAT SPARK BETWEEN US! Shemara, Noord-Holland Netherlands

Can you afford risking losing what could be a valuable relationship... just because you couldn't provide the excitement, challenge and satisfaction your man or woman wants...

The worst thing that could happen in a relationship is watching him/her get bored with you or with the relationship. If things start becoming routine, predictable or boring, then he or she's going to find something or SOMEONE else to occupy him/her.

These tried and guaranteed to produce a slow, sure, hot fire strategies will not only rekindle the passion, desire, respect, trust and love in your relationship, they'll help you avoid the complications of outside affairs. Why would he/she look elsewhere when he/she is constantly wanting and desiring you?