This is not your usual "Playing Hard to Get" approach. This is about Playing Hard to "Get Caught". Emphasis is on "Get Caught!"
Before you go any further, let me begin by telling you what most people will not tell you because they are so distracted with mind games that they've really missed the point of "Playing Hard To Get".
See, if someone is not into you, acting like you’re not interested won't help at all. If someone is somewhat interested in you, acting like you’re not interested will make them second guess their natural instincts -- and that's not good at all! If someone is very interested in you, acting like you’re not interested is self-defeating.
Healthy relationships that last develop and thrive on "want him/her if he/she wants me". Except for a few men and women who chase after people who show no interest in them whatsoever, most of us are drawn to the strength of the other person’s desire for us and are attracted to people who show interest in us. So even though acting like you're not interested can sometimes lessen the risk of getting hurt, it is bittersweet satisfaction.
you want to make someone want you enough to commit effort
and time chasing you, make the experience of knowing you worth their while!
Forget about not taking his or her calls, pretending you are busy and/or trying to make him or her jealous. What all those mind games do is make you
elusive that the other person assumes you’re not
Just out of curiosity, why would you even want someone who only wants you because someone else wants you? Wouldn't it feel really great to know someone loves you and wants you because you're so special to him or her, and not because his or her "competitive juices" have been squeezed?
I just had to get that out there, so you do not mistake "ego impulses" for "wanting you" .
Let's get back to those mind games!
Most adults are turned off by mind games -- and rightfully so!
Playing impossible to find mind games work only very briefly and only with a very small number of men and women. They'll
will chase you around for a while but there comes a day when they get tried of running,
up and move on.
And you'll wish you had let them catch you!
If it's too difficult, too complicated, too demanding, too stressful, too painful, it does not make someone want to chase you, instead it has the opposite effect - make the person want to go away!
Less about the chase, more about "the catch"
Let them know how you feel about them. Seriously, adult to adult... if you're interested in someone or even like/love that person does it make any sense pretending that you don’t?
Of course not! Most people would see pretending as not only emotionally immature but emotionally deceptive.
Most people who love and pretend they don't, fear that their love might be rejected or not returned but by hiding their feelings, that's exactly what happens... their "love" is not returned!!!
Let someone know you're interested... It's the best feeling in the world!!!
The tricky part is, how to let them know you're interested but not needy and desperate!
Here is where my eBook comes in.
The Delicate Art of Arranging to "Be Caught" needs that apparent or sincere hint of fun and enjoyment, excitement and adventure, worth and value. Without it, all the showing someone you're interested in him/her won’t make him/her want to catch and keep you.
Demonstrate your value before you demonstrate your feelings
How many times have you heard the words, "I love you but I'm not in love with?!?!"
Translation I love you but I'm not excited about you!
That "excited about you" feeling is what makes us want to know more... be more... have more... love more... FEEL MORE... It's a feeling that is hard to describe... BUT NOT HARD TO CREATE!!!
So what are the powerful secrets that you are about to learn that will make someone excited about you!
Honesty, Intrigue, and Playfulness
A guy goes to a store to buy his woman a birthday gift. He picks out a pair of gold earrings but says “no” when the shop attendant asks if she can gift wrap it. Instead he puts the earrings in his pocket. He calls his woman on his cell, “Honey” I know it’s your birthday. I’m at the jewelry store and I just bought you a pair of gold earrings. They cost me 267.83 bucks. I’ll give them to you later at dinner. I reserved us a table at Joe & Kate’s Hideout. At the dinner table he pulls out the gold earrings from his coat pocket, holds them in front of her face and says, “Happy birthday. If you like the earrings you can keep them, if not, I’ll take them back to the store and get back my money”.
Do you think this woman is going to look forward to her next birthday?
I DON'T THINK SO!
This guy is 100% honest... but what's wrong with this picture?
No intrigue, no hint of fun, no playfulness. Just plain predictable. In relationships that's PC for "boring" -- no imagination or creativity.
Honesty, Intrigue, and Playfulness...
A guy goes to a store to buy his woman a birthday gift. He asks for it to be wrapped to conceal what's inside. He then calls his wife to ask what time she’ll be home. She asks why? He says… with a hint of mystery… “You’ll just have to find out”. She insists, “If you don’t tell me, I won’t be home”. He says, “That’s okay… then I’ll just have to pick you up from wherever you are”.
He’s being 100% honest but in a playful intriguing way… He’s unpredictable because he knows "HIS VALUE" and is demonstrating it with playful confidence, which is piquing her interest and making her want to find out more… BUT he's also making sure the conversation or experience isn't too confusing, overwhelming or stressful for her. The "unpredictable" part has to feel "good" for it to be worth it.
If they don't feel it's worthy the chase, they won’t even be curious…
that is a bigger turnoff for
both men and women than someone
who is predictable, not much of
a challenge, too rigid or
controlling, desperate or too
eager to please, incurably
narrow-minded and downright boring.
Intrigue, unfamiliarity and adventure is fundamental to our very nature. Young or old, we never outgrow our innate desire for things that pique the senses in a positive, exciting and rewarding way.
worthwhile -- almost necessary
-- to play hard-to-get on some
level if you want to create that something that makes men and women want to keep coming back for some more!
The best part about my approach to this game of love is that the other person IS AWARE of what’s going on and is inspired to want to play because the game promises excitement and reward. NO MIND GAMES!
Once you’ve been introduced to
psychological and the
relational strategies you’ll
quickly realize what your man or
woman wants and how easy it is
for you to give him or her
what will keep him excited and
committed to putting in 100%
effort in acting to get it.
I have women chasing me for once...
I used to
always chase women, and it backfired almost
every time. After reading Playing
Hard-To-Get The Love Way e-Book, I realized
that when I chased I was too intense and
desperate. Plus I chased women who didn't
want to be caught. They just liked the speed
of the chase -- speed chase junkies - -oops
had to be said! But now I have women chasing
me for once. It's not intimidating - it's a
turn on to see a woman who knows what she
wants and is prepared to go for it. But one
of these days, I have to "surrender to love"
and allow myself to be caught. I've never
been in love and can't wait to find out who
that lucky woman will be.
Matthew, Huntington Beach California